There is a particular pornographic photo that I adore—in it a pile of large, bearded men, are cuddling, stroking cocks, and generally lost in bliss. The tint of the photo suggests it was taken in the 1970s, but the classic “bear” look sported by all the men appears crafted, intentional, and contemporary. When people describe [...]

You dear reader are sitting in the park. A well-intentioned, progressive, politically minded hotty comes up to you. You give them the eye. They say, “Hey sexy! Wanna fuck?” You say, “Yeah, but just so you know, I’m polyamorous.” They say, “Oh groovy, I think it would make a great statement about our commitment to [...]

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Favianna Rodriguez, Make Out Not War

Dear Q.R. My balls ache something terrible. What’s going on? Do I have an extended case of blue balls? I asked my lover to suck me off. He said “no;” I said “please;” and now he’s pissed. What’s wrong with my balls? What’s wrong with my man? Dull Ache Down Under Dear Dull Ache Down [...]

I have never liked the idea of “sexual orientation.” The implication is that we were born desiring in a certain, irrevocable, unalterable direction and that our sexuality is fixed and rigid. Many advocates of the concept pragmatically argue that sexual orientation is not a choice. “Why would we choose to be this way?” Why would [...]

Two friends have recently commented on how difficult it is to keep from gawking at people’s boobs and cocks. Both friends sneak quick peeks and turn away. After an onslaught of critiques of objectification, many struggle to know what to do with their nagging desire to stare at the bulging flesh of people surrounding them. [...]

A dear friend sent me Jasbir Puar’s intriguing editorial from the July 1rst Guardian, Israel’s Gay Propaganda War, about the Brand Israel Campaign, a public relations (aka state propaganda) campaign designed to bring positive attention to the state of Israel by boasting the “gay friendly” nature of the country and contrasting it to the homophobia [...]

Dear Queer Radical, What are your favorite lubes? My Mom’s drunk boyfriend recommends KY Jelly, but somehow, I don’t trust everything he says. Any ideas? Yours Dryly, Discouraged Dear Discouraged, Way to get greasy. Condoms, gloves, and dental dams all require a healthy amount of lube to be both effective and pleasurable. Hand-jobs and fisting [...]