I’m not sure why, but this year I actually liked Pride festivities. Perhaps it’s because my weekend opened up Wednesday with a fifty mile bike ride with Hillary followed by a delicious dinner. Or maybe it was Thursday night when a hot boy took me home to play the ancient game Go naked and then [...]

My dear friend Emily sent me the following text last night. I’ve been balling.. I’m totally devestated. I hope you are taking the loss ok. Let me know of any memorials to the tender misunderstood freak that touched us all. Beautifully put Emily. I’ll never forget being four years old and prancing around to Beat [...]

I have been on vacation for the past two days, catching up on much needed rest, working on Advertising Anarchism: Pitfalls and Possibilities of Propaganda for AK Press, luxuriating in the garden, and last night listening to a reading of Samuel Delaney and other writers at Naropa University. It’s been a stressful few weeks, turbulent [...]

A couple weekends ago, my sweet, politically committed friend Robert asked me if I’d fool around with people whose politics I don’t like. The fact is I don’t hand anonymous fucks an ideology survey and even if I did I’m not sure what it would look like. Perhaps something like this: Violence Vs. Non-Violence? Do [...]

Dear Slutty Pants Fence Sitter, My close friend and I started hanging out because he wanted to do it with me. While I really like him as a friend, I’m not that into him. He wants to find someone to initiate him into gay culture and a long-term relationship. He’s an underage immigrant without documentation [...]

Dear Slutty Pants Fence Sitter I’m a young gay man living in Toledo. After I made a witty remark about my boyfriend’s asshole boss, my boyfriend called me a catty, bitchy faggot. He thought it was a compliment. I thought it was misogynistic and homophobic? I told him he was fucked up. Was I wrong? [...]

My friend Indra brought my attention to this article at darkdaughta.blogspot.com where Dark Daughta reflects on the distinction between folks invested in branding themselves and reflecting deeply on identity. Quoting Dark Daughta: Making the self a product, a package, complete and finite, stunts the true growth of an individual because it allows them no space [...]

Dear Slutty Pants Fence Sitter, I’m totally excited that gender variant/terrorist/abolitionists like Del LaGrace Volcano exist. It’s about time we blow up this binary gender bullshit; however, I’m having a huge conundrum. What are the proper pronouns for gender variant/gender neutral people? I figured you’d know. Yours in Wonder, Curious and Confused Dear CandC, Don’t [...]

My friend Nathan just sent me a link to artist Del LaGrace Volcano’s website replete with techno-gender variant/terrorist/abolitionist photographs, performances, and written celebrations of hermaphroditic love. So good! Below is Volcano’s artist’s statement As a gender variant visual artist I access ‘technologies of gender’ in order to amplify rather than erase the hermaphroditic traces of [...]

In the last two days, I’ve had two of my New York friends tell me they saw Samuel Delaney speak. Both friends seemed smitten. Delaney’s a badass sci-fi/fantasy/erotica literary writer, critical theorist, and autobiographer who is about as smart and hot as they come. His incredible novel Dhalgren explodes categories of race, gender, age, power, [...]